church issues.

asking why you are serving at one ministry instead of another.



trying to prove they are right.

what is right?

i don’t know anymore.

some people whom i know, love and respect, are bold and blunt are saying it how it is.. they are out there. they tell people the gospel. the blunt truth of the gospel. telling them to turn from their sinful life and take up their cross and follow jesus.

and theres other people that i know, love and respect, who show love, tell people of jesus and the gospel, and who show jesus through being compassionate, understanding and loving. they will talk if you want to talk. but will not force anything.

but these two kinds of people are rubbing each other the wrong way. I know people on both sides are christians… but why is there conflict?

is there one side that is better?

i can’t make sense of it.

at all.

i just… i don’t understand.

i see both sides.

i agree with both.

jesus had both of those qualities.

he was loving.

he showed compassion.

he did not judge.

but he did show them their sin.

he told them to repent and turn from their ungodly lives.

so why..?

why do we think it’s one or the other?

we need to show people the ungodliness of their lives.

we need to warn them.

but some people,

need to be shown thought love from people.

they need to see how christians live.

they need to be able to trust.

they need to be made aware of the sin in their lives.

then let the holy spirit work.


i don’t know.

maybe that’s why we have those two kinds of people.



for me, myself, i am a more quiet, compassionate, here for you, show you jesus’ love kind of person. because that is how i became to know jesus as my personal saviour. people who were up in my face, blunt, telling me my life was wrong, those kind of people made me harder and colder to the truth.  i was already struggling with myself. i was depressed. i knew the life i was living was wrong. having people who made me feel worse just made me feel more alone and further from God, and like i definitely wouldn’t ever be “good enough” for God. it was the people who were there for me. the ones who i knew didn’t judge me. the ones i could open up to, ask questions, the ones i could see jesus’ love in their lives, who really impacted my life.

but thats just me.

i know there are many people who come to know jesus in many different ways.

i don’t know.

this all confuses me.


i did find some information that helped me a little.

  • john 4:1-42 tells us how Jesus witnessed.


  • The Bible tells us that some people will be offended at the gospel (Luke 12:51-53). However, we are commanded to share the gospel, and there is no excuse for not doing so (Matthew 28:19-20; Acts 1:8; 1 Peter 3:15).

    So, how can we evangelize our family members, friends, co-workers, and acquaintances? The most important thing we can do is pray for them. Pray that God would change their hearts and open their eyes (2 Corinthians 4:4) to the truth of the gospel. Pray that God would convince them of His love for them and their need for salvation through Jesus Christ (John 3:16). Pray for wisdom as to how you can minister to them (James 1:5). In addition to praying, we must also live godly Christian lives in front of them, so they can see the change God has made in our own lives (1 Peter 3:1-2). As Saint Francis of Assisi once said, “Preach the gospel at all times and when necessary use words.”

    Finally, we must be willing and bold in our actual sharing of the gospel. Proclaim the message of salvation through Jesus Christ to your friends and family (Romans 10:9-10). Always be prepared to speak of your faith (1 Peter 3:15), doing so with gentleness and respect. Ultimately, we must leave the salvation of our loved ones up to God. It is God’s power and grace that saves people, not our efforts. The best and most we can do is pray for them, witness to them, and live the Christian life in front of them.


if anyone has an scripture or advice for me or anything please let me know<3

with love,